sometimes i have to admit that life really is full of unforeseen events. changes that feel as though they can't actually be changed. plans set in motion and prepared for months in advanced versus a sudden alteration in our day to day lives. weighing the importance of one over the other. yet, is one really more important than the other? equal value i say, because both allow me to express only love. a celebration confirming one's faith or ceremony remembering/mourning one's life. i feel somewhat guilty. but in the end a choice is made whether through public debate or private contemplation. i say congrats to you! and my deepest sympathy for you and your family.